I was trying to think of just the way to approach this one given the circumstances and the delicate matter itself. There was no way I was going to pay homage to someone who committed such a heinous act even if he did play for my Chiefs. But I wanted to speak on this in some capacity so here it goes.
Kassandra Perkins became the latest homicide victim of uncalled for domestic violence when she was shot multiple times by her boyfriend Jovan Belcher early Saturday morning. She was 22-years-old. Belcher would then leave the scene to drive to Arrowhead Stadium where he ended up shooting and killing himself in the presence of head coach Romeo Crennel and general manager Scott Pioli.
I touched on this on The Book and got a mixed reaction. Just as I expected I would. However, my stance remains the same on this issue so I wanted to expound on it even more here. When it comes to the death of innocent people AND there is a child involved, I do have very opinionated stances. If a person doesn't like it then that's their prerogative. It's not going to change the way I feel nor should it.
I have often said before that when it comes to suicide, we can never understand what brings a person to that point. I'm sure we all have heard by now that suicide is just a permanent solution to a temporary problem. That person had probably heard that before too. And no, it doesn't matter that that person on the surface may seem to have it all with fame and money and prestige or whatnot. None of that matters if the person isn't happy with who they are. We aren't in their head so there's no way we can ever know.
BUT...when the situation turns into a murder-suicide, that's a different story altogether. Once that has taken place, I could care less about whatever problems the killer has. If they want to take themselves out then so be it. Once they intentionally take someone else's life in the process, they IMMEDIATELY become a coward in my book. I could think of a plethora of other derogatory names to call them as well, but we'll just leave it at that one for now. That is just one of the biggest punk moves that a person could do.
Some folks would try to argue (and have) that that's not a fair assessment. What if dude had some mental issues? Maybe they were brought on from the concussion thing that's been recently plaguing the NFL? Or what if he was just sick and no one ever saw the symptoms before? So what. If he was then that just makes him a sick coward. He had NO right to take another innocent life just because he had some demons of his own.
Not only that but it was the person who he killed that makes it even worse. It wasn't just a random person. Kassandra was the mother of his child. By killing himself, he was already depriving his child of having her father in her life ever again. He had to go the extra step and take the child's mother too. Now that poor child will have neither parent in her life. There could not be another more selfish act than that. That makes dude the worst type of scumbag.
I'm so glad the Chiefs did the right thing by deciding not to "honor" Belcher with any type of black stickers on their unis or anything commemorative of that nature. That's why I didn't even bother to put up his pic in this post. He did not deserve any of that. What they should have rightly done was take a moment for the families that were affected by this tragedy. Thoughts and prayers should be with Kassandra's family and definitely that poor child who is now an orphan. But as for Jovan? May he get everything that he deserves in the afterlife.
Rest in peace, Kassandra.